Marriage Basics

Marriage Basics

Marriage is an institution created by YAHUAH. YAHUAH wants order in everything, also in marriage.

What is marriage?

A lifetime relationship between a husband and wife/wives


Faithfulness to each other

Finding your spouse

As the church can not command and order Yahusha, so a woman can not command a man.

A woman is created to help the man. It is not the other way around.

As the church obeys Christ, so a woman obeys her man.

Therefor it is very important that a woman choses the right man to marry with.

Because she will have to obey that man.

The man must be a holy man that follows and obeys YAHUAH. The man must have a heart of servanthood. To serve his wife. But he will not serve the way she directly wants it. He will serve his wife/wives according to his own discernment.

The man serves them according to the insight and purpose that YAHUAH has given him personally. On his own initiative. Just like Yahusha towards the disciples/church. Read John 13:1-5.

The man must serve and be humble as Yahusha when He washed the feet of his disciples. But no one of the disciples had the audacity to ask Yasha Christ to wash their feet. They wouldn’t even dare to ask Yahusha Christ to wash their feet. Read John 13:6-8.

A woman must organize herself in all ways. After she has organized herself, she will ask the man how she can help  the man. She can not ask the man to do things that she can do herself. For a woman is created to be a help, not a burden. Gen.1:18-24.

Read John13:9: total submission and respect for Yahusha, because Christ knows what was good for Peter.  In the same way a wife should have total submission and respect for the man, because Yahusha has given him the wisdom and insight to lead his wife into good things.

Marriage in 8 perfect steps according to the Bible:

1 Man sees woman and likes her

Man and woman must have a thorough marriage interview with each other

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2 Man asks the woman for marriage.

3 If the woman likes the man they can start their journey to get married.

4 Man asks the father/family/representative for permission to marry the woman (tradition).

5 If agreed the marriage is confirmed in a contract with at least 2 witnesses (tradition).

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6 If required a dowry is paid to the father/family/representative of the woman (tradition).

7 Communion (communion/intercourse is marriage, Gen.2:2, Mat.19:4-6, Mark 10:6-9)

8 The wedding ceremony and feast with witnesses and families (tradition).

Intercourse (sex)

What is permitted intercourse?

Heb.13:4, 1Cor.7:3-4, 5, 1Thes.4:3-5

Touching and kissing: Permitted

Vaginal penetration; Permitted


Anal penetration: Not permitted.

Explanation: the rectum contains feces. Feces is described as unclean (hygiene). Deut. 23:12-14. Also is anal penetration physiologically and anatomically unnatural. It is one of the great sins of Sodom and Gomorrah.

Oral stimulation on genitals (man and woman); Not permitted:

Explanation for women: when giving oral sex, the semen of the man contacts the mouth of the woman. Semen is described as unclean (hygiene). Lev.15:16-18, Lev.15:32, Deut.23:10 (Deut.23:10 speaks about “a nocturnal emission”/a wet dream).

Explanation for men: when giving oral sex to a woman, the fluids of the vagina contacts the mouth. The fluids of a woman cause her to be unclean. Lev.18:19, Lev.15:19-28, Lev.12:1-5

Definition of sodomy according to Merriam Webster dictonary:

"anal or oral copulation with a member of the same or opposite sex also : copulation with an animal"


Separation between man and woman:

No intercourse during the woman’s menstrual period and after her childbirth. Lev.18:19, Lev.15:19-28, Lev.12:1-5

What about self-stimulation?

Don't do it. After doing it, you will always feel guilty, awkward, spiritually restless and disappointed in your self. You lose spiritual strength. Rather practice self-control, abstinence and patience.

What is the best time during the day for intercourse?

in the afternoon so that you can shower and wash up before sunset.

In this way your time of uncleaness is the shortest.

Lev 15:16  And if any man's seed of copulation go out from him, then he shall wash all his flesh in water, and be unclean until the even. 

Lev 15:17  And every garment, and every skin, whereon is the seed of copulation, shall be washed with water, and be unclean until the even. 

Lev 15:18  The woman also with whom man shall lie with seed of copulation, they shall both bathe themselves in water, and be unclean until the even.


Can a man be married with more than one woman (polygyny), according to the bible?

Yes, but it must be organised according to the laws, statutes, and commandments of The Most High. There are many example of righteous polygyny men in the Bible (Abraham, Jacob and many others.

A man is responsible to take care of his wife/wives and children.

The apostle Paul and Christ (Mat.19:1-13, 1Cor.7:1-8) advise to stay single if possible. In order to be totally focused on YAHUAH, without the worries and cares of a marriage and children. 2Esdras 16:40-44, Mat.24:19.

Reality shows us, that succesful and holy celibacy is just for a select number of people. Not for the majority.

Imagine all Hebrew Israelites becoming celibate; the Israelite nation would soon be no more. Also keep in mind that our nation is under attack and is being slaughtered. Having children is necessary. And teaching our children to keep the law, statutes and commands of The Most High is vital.

Hebrew Israelite polygyny is a potent counterattack.

Deacons, bishops/overseers can not go into polygyny (1Tim. 3:2, 12)

Live totally focused on the will of YAHUAH. Matt.22:30

Having multiple wives is a legal biblical choice.Gen.25:6, Gen.4:19, Gen.30:9, Gen.30:4, Ex.21:10, Deut.17:17, Deut.25:5-10, Deut.21:15, Judges 8:30, 2 Sam.5:13, 1Sam1:1-2, 2Sam.12:8, 2Chr.24:1-3, 2Chro.24:3, 1Chro.4:5,  2Chr.13:21,  2Chro.11:21,  1 Chro.3:1-9, Isa.4:1: precepts 2Esdr.16:22-36, Luk.1:25, Gen.30:23, 1Tim.2:15.

Mat.25:1. YAHUAH did not change. Nobody can strongly refute with scripture that multiple wives (polygyny) is sin. If YAHUAH said it was Ok, then what can we say? Nothing.

One must not have multiple wives to gratify lusts. One can have multiple wives to build a nation. In biblical  history, past time history and in our present time, we can see that Satan has always been trying to destroy the Hebrew Israelite bloodline. Abortion, child killing, vaccins, imprisonment, flooding us with drugs, police brutality and many more tactics. As satan is trying to kill the Hebrew Israelite bloodline, polygyny is one of our great weapons against Satan. Keeping alive our bloodline and culture through our children.

As Hebrew Israelites we must multiply and teach and train our children to take over the baton for the next generation. And pass on our great Hebrew Israelite culture and lifestyle; Obedience to YAHUAH and persevering untill the coming of Yahusha.  Since we  do not know the exact timing of the coming of Christ, we must not stop having children and training them. Otherwise our bloodline that is already under attack, will be even more endangered.

Polygyny is a legal biblical choice. Polygyny is not for everone. It is most definitely not for insecure men and women.


A polygynous family is a team that cooperates for the same goals and purposes. Within the team there must be order and respect. Esteeming the other higher. No jealousy. A true sisterhood that supports 1 man for a lifetime.

Within a household there is order and hierarchy.

Hierarchy amongst the wives in a polygynous household

In the scriptures we find different set ups. For a marriage to be succesfull there must be order and clear roles.

Above you will see a picture of different family set ups (A, B, C)

Explanation of set up A:

Monogamy: 1 man and 1 woman

Explanation of set up B:


The role of the 1st wife

the 1st wife is the leader of the wives. She knows her man best. She knows the goals and calling of her man best.

She will help and select the 2nd and or 3rd wife.

She will lead them by being a servant and example.

The role of the 2nd and 3rd wife

the 2nd and 3rd wife will help the 1st wife to support and serve their husband.

Explanation of set up C:


There is no leading 1st wife. All wives support and serve their husband

The polygyny sisterhood

All the wives get a fair amount of time with their husband. Fair is not always equal.

Within the sisterhood of wives there must be love and humbleness. There is no competition. No jealousy.

Read. John13:12-17.

The goal of multiple wives is to:

Serve YAHUAH in everything

build a holy Israelite nation, healthy families, holy children, a royal priesthood family

create a more comfortable life for each of the members

have more health and beauty

create a quiet and peacefull life

to have a big loving family that takes care of each other with all their talents and gifts.

In case of polygyny: "How to find and choose

the 2nd or 3rd wife"

Also for this there are different set-ups.

Set up 1:

The 1st wife introduces a second wife. (like in Gen.16:3, Gen. 30:4,9)

Set up 2:

Father, priest, or another man brings a wife to the man (Gen.29:27, 2Chr.24:1-3)

Set up 3:

the man independantly searches a second wife

Set up 4:

as a team the man and his 1st wife search for a second wife

Set up 5:

a women indepentdantly offers herself to be taken as a wife (Isa.4:1)

The man's accountability

The man is totally free to decide how he wants to find his 2nd/3rd/.....wife.

He does not owe his 1st wife and or other wives any accountability on how he will find his new wife/wives. Neighter does he need permission from his wife/wives.

As long as he is fullfilling his duty to them according to Ex.21:10-11, 1Cor.7:1-6, Eph.5:21-29), he has the full right to introduce a new wife.

In this proces a man must use wisdom and patience. And give the weaker one (i.e. his first wife) time to adjust to the custom of Hebrew polygyny (Rom.14). He must lead his first wife through it and show her that is a normal biblical custom. He can do so by going through the bible scriptures, watching positive polygyny videos, by talking about it and by listening to her.

This site is a handy tool. This site provides a lot of information on polygyny (videos, scriptures, etc).

It is important to understand that a Hebrew marriage is not the same as christian marriage/worldly marriage/pagan marriage. As you come into the truth realize that polygyny is a righteous choice that the biblical man has. A man can righteously choose for polygyny even if he is married for many years in monogamy. It is his choice. Not the choice of the wife. According to scripture a wife can not divorce her man because of polygyny. If she does and marries another man, she becomes guilty of adultery.

In the proces of finding polygyny a man must look for the most fitting wife to complement his househould. To have peace and harmony in his entire household.

The advice is that the new wife must be a little bit younger, the same age catergory, or a little bit older than the man. But not too much age difference. Offcourse there can always be exceptions; there are succesful polygyny households with age differences of 30 years. So age does not have to be a limitation.

The wife must be submitted to YAHUAH already before she enters the family. She must have proven herself with good works and reputation already before she enters the family. She must be, or try to be like the woman of

Proverbs 31:10-31.

Each wife is different and must fit in the family naturally. Therefor to bring in a new wife in the family, there must be an effective selection procedure to see if she fits in the calling and goals of the family. After the wife-to-be has successfully passed the selection procedure, there must be a time of quarantine. That means that there will be no communion in the first period.

Quarantine time: The "engagement" time

In the quarantine time the new wife will work on her self, meaning:

No communion in the first period.

Let the sister acclimate. No duties for her. Let the sister observe the family.

She will get her body in shape and lose overweight, by healthy diet and exercising.

She will get her BMI (body mass index) around 20-25  That's a is healthy standard.

She will continue her diet and exercising. It's a lifestyle.

She will get her emotions in order.

She will forgive every person of her past that has hurt her, contacting them (mail, letter, phone, etc) and letting them

know that she forgives them. Because what is the use of investing in a woman and living with a woman that will not enter the kingdom because she can not forgive?


But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.


Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.

And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.


Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

2 Cor.5:17

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

She will also get herself in line with the Hebrew Israelite lifestyle:

During her menses she will separate herself according to scripture Lev.15:19-33.

She will dress properly (only skirts and dresses at least at calve lenght, no cleavage, headcovering when praying, prophecying, worshipping, praising, in gatherings).

She will get rid of feelings of jealousy towards sisterwives

She understands that her life is for building the Hebrew Israelite nation (teaching children, raising children, supporting/serving her man.

 !!! Make sure you also do STD testing and background check before engaging in marriage !!!

After she has mastered the lifestyle, passing all the requirements and tests,

she will be joined in to the family by marriage;


Polygyny and Housing

In scripture we can see that wives in polygyny had their own place/tent/quarter/room.

That is the most preferable setting.

It also avoids a lot of tension.

And the man must also have his own place/tent/quarter/room where he can come to rest and spent time alone for prayer/meditation/studying/etc.

The polygynous family should live nearby eachother so that they can enjoy the benefits of polygyny the most.

The children should be able to spent time with their father every day. The wives should be able to enjoy eachothers presence every day and together work towards the goals that the  man has for the familiy.


If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.

A man must be able to sustain his wife/wives.

At the same time we read in Proverbs 31:10-31 about the virtuous woman. She can take care of herself.

We also read in Isaiah 4:1 that before the coming of Yahusha, women will live in polygny but still provide for themself.


And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying,

1 We will eat our own bread:, (I will provide for my own food)

2 and wear our own apparel: (I will provide for my own clothing)


only let us be called by thy name, (Let us be called your wives)

to take away our reproach. (Give us children, Luk.1:25, Gen.30:23, 1Tim.2:15)


The husband must provide, but at the same time the wife/wives are not to sit idle in the house. Whatever talents/skills/resources a wive has, should be used to financially support her individually and thus aleviate the husband in his responsibility of providing for her.

Finance and polygyny

To organize your finance in a proper way, there are different set ups. The husband will decide which set up will be the best for his househould.

But what is important is that all member contribute to the family in some way.

2Th 3:10  For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. 

2Th 3:11  For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies. 

It is important that all members (sisterwives included) care for eachother:

1Jn 3:16  Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 

1Jn 3:17  But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? 

1Jn 3:18  My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth. 

1Jn 3:19  And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him. 

set up 1:

All the finances are put together and distributed according to the needs.

They Had Everything in Common:

Act 4:32  And the multitude of them that believed were of one heart and of one soul: neither said any of them that ought of the things which he possessed was his own; but they had all things common. 

Act 4:33  And with great power gave the apostles witness of the resurrection of Yahusha: and great grace was upon them all. 

Act 4:34  Neither was there any among them that lacked: for as many as were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the prices of the things that were sold, 

Act 4:35  And laid them down at the apostles' feet: and distribution was made unto every man according as he had need. 

Act 4:36  And Joses, who by the apostles was surnamed Barnabas, (which is, being interpreted, The son of consolation,) a Levite, and of the country of Cyprus, 

Act 4:37  Having land, sold it, and brought the money, and laid it at the apostles' feet. 

set up 2:

Each wife has her own work and own income to spend

Set up 3:

Half of her income is taken for the famliy and half she can spend for herself

Set up 4:

The husband works for an income pays for everything and his wives receive everything they need from him.


What is adultery?

A man lusting on and/or having intercourse with a married woman.

A married women lusting on and/or having intercourse with another man than her own  husband.

What is fornication?

Every unlawfull sexual act:

Intercourse without a marriage following, without commitment

Intercourse with equal gender (homosexualtity)

Anal intercourse

Oral intercourse

Intercourse with family (incest)

Intercourse with more than one at the same time (orgy)

Intercourse with animals (beastiality)

What women are fit for marriage? 

They must have all possible characteristics:



Women who are divorced because their unbelieving husband abandoned them. 1Cor.7:15-16

Women who are divorced because their husband committed adultery.

Women that are around your age, or at least “look” around your age.

Character of a good wife


Friendly and hospitable women

always respectful to all men in general

respect their parents and older people

willing and able to work in a team

willing and able to work with children and teach childeren

Healthy fit women

Natural women

speaks proper (no cursing and rudeness)

takes care of her body

wise women (Prov.9:13)

What men are fit for marriage?

They must have all possible characteristics:

Men that put YAHUAH first

Men who are stable in everything (emotions, doctrine, vision)

Men that have a high level of self-control and discipline

Character of a good husband

Men of YAHUAH with a clear purpose/goal in life

Men that respect their parents and older people

Men that can provide

Men that speak proper (no cursing and rudeness)

Wise men

Healthy fit men

Men that take care of their body

Men of action, not men that only talk

Men that are around your age, or at least “look” around your age.

Men that can protect

Men that can teach/communicate/transfer information properly.

Raising children

It is the task of the parents to take care of their children. Physically, emotionally and spiritually. Feeding them, clothing them, protecting them, preparing them, teaching them, motivating them and leading them to enter the kingdom of Yahusha Christ. That is the task of the parents. Eph.6:4

Controlled disciplining from a young age is essential.


Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Ecclesiasticus 30:1-2

He that loveth his son causeth him oft to feel the rod, that he may have joy of him in the end.

He that chastiseth his son shall have joy in him, and shall rejoice of him among his acquaintance.

Ecclesiasticus 30:7-13

He that maketh too much of his son shall bind up his wounds; and his bowels will be troubled at every cry.

An horse not broken becometh headstrong: and a child left to himself will be wilful.

Cocker thy child, and he shall make thee afraid: play with him, and he will bring thee to heaviness.

Laugh not with him, lest thou have sorrow with him, and lest thou gnash thy teeth in the end.

Give him no liberty in his youth, and wink not at his follies.

Bow down his neck while he is young, and beat him on the sides while he is a child, lest he wax stubborn, and be disobedient unto thee, and so bring sorrow to thine heart.

Chastise thy son, and hold him to labour, lest his lewd behaviour be an offence unto thee.

Ecclesiasticus 7:23

"Hast thou children? instruct them, and bow down their neck from their youth."

Training the children from a young age to function in their future role (husband/wive) is essential.

Directing the children in their future profession is essential. The parents decide.

Ecclesiasticus 7:24

Hast thou daughters? have a care of their body, and shew not thyself cheerful toward them.

Ecclesiasticus 7:25

Marry thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.

The children must obey and respect their parents. Ex.20:12. Their parents will be content about their children. They will wholeheartedly reward and give their children all good things they ask for and want. Eph.6:1-3


And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Ecclesiasticus 7:27-28

Honour thy father with thy whole heart, and forget not the sorrows of thy mother.

Remember that thou wast begotten of them; and how canst thou recompense them the things that they have done for thee?

Ecclesiasticus 3:1-16

Read it.

Ecclesiasticus 4:10

Be as a father unto the fatherless, and instead of an husband unto their mother: so shalt thou be as the son of the most High, and he shall love thee more than thy mother doth.

Legacy and nation building

As Hebrew Israelites we must multiply and flood the world with our offspring. We must have many children.There is a ongoing war against our bloodline. As a weapon against the war on our bloodline, we must have many children and teach them to obey YAHUAH. Polygyny is great instrument to have many children and raise them up in a warm  environment of conscience parents.

We must raise our children as a holy and royal priesthood so that our Hebrew Israelite nation will prosper also in the future. We must teach our children our history so that they can learn a lesson from it. We must instill in them the pride of being a righteous Hebrew Israelite.We must also instill in them a strong sense of Hebrew Israelite nationalism. We must erase individualism. As Hebrew Israelites we are only strong a NATION; not as individuals. The Hebrew Israelite will only survive and rule by beeing obedient to YAHUAH.


For thou art an holy people unto the LORD thy God: the LORD thy God hath chosen thee to be a special people unto himself, above all people that are upon the face of the earth.


Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;

6 And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.

Deuteronomy 6:6-9

And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:

And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes.

And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.


Know therefore that the Lord thy God, he is God, the faithful God, which keepeth covenant and mercy with them that love him and keep his commandments to a thousand generations;


What man is he that feareth the LORD? him shall he teach in the way that he shall choose.

His soul shall dwell at ease; and his seed shall inherit the earth.

The secret of the LORD is with them that fear him; and he will shew them his covenant.


And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Right now we are also working on a curriculum and home schooling material  to assist us in raising our children to be a vast army of holy and royal priesthood Hebrew Israelites, that will take over the baton in the next generation. Securing our survival and dominion in this world.

In our curriculum we plan to have the following courses:



Natural health and healing


Eco-system management

The laws statutes and commandments of YAHUAH

Biblical History and prophecy

Righteous judgment

World Leadership


Nation building and legacy


A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.

We must also leave an inheritance for our children.

Land and plots are one of the best inheritances to leave behind for our children


Now therefore give not your daughters unto their sons, neither take their daughters unto your sons, nor seek their peace or their wealth for ever: that ye may be strong, and eat the good of the land, and leave it for an inheritance to your children for ever.

It is essential for survival, nation building and legacy that Hebrew Israelites do NOT intermarry with Gentiles.


Praise ye the LORD. Blessed is the man that feareth the LORD, that delighteth greatly in his commandments.

His seed shall be mighty upon earth: the generation of the upright shall be blessed.

Wealth and riches shall be in his house: and his righteousness endureth for ever.

What things should you leave behind for your children, childrens children, and beyond?

Write books so that your children can learn from your books and so that they can keep on publishing your books and collect the royalties long after your death. That is a great gift from you to them.

Produce music and let them collect the royalties

Buy land and pass it on to your children

and teach them to do the same to their children

Now that you have clear understanding of Hebrew Israelite marriage: